Bound friendships
Jul. 28th, 2011 10:07 pmI wrote this in a post on
steorra, and since this bit is about Domil, I'll repost it here:
For a long time, I've had the idea that one of the societies in my imaginary world has a kind of committed friendship that is formalized with a ceremony; the people involved are called 'bound friends'. ('Bound' doesn't have very good connotations in English, but this is probably a translation from a conlang where the connotations are different.) I don't think I ever worked out completely what this relationship committed the members to. I believe it would exclude the possibility of marriage between the friends. I know that I always imagined there being rules about the relationship between marriage and bound friendship; at the least, a marriage did not dissolve a bound friendship, but if you were married, you needed your spouse's permission in order to enter into a new bound friendship. (I may have had more worked out than that, but that's what I remember right now, and I don't seem to have written anything down about it, so if I want to develop it further I'll have to work it out again.)
I wonder when I developed that idea. Probably late Sunshine Coast days, possibly UBC days, but it feels probably pre-UBC.
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For a long time, I've had the idea that one of the societies in my imaginary world has a kind of committed friendship that is formalized with a ceremony; the people involved are called 'bound friends'. ('Bound' doesn't have very good connotations in English, but this is probably a translation from a conlang where the connotations are different.) I don't think I ever worked out completely what this relationship committed the members to. I believe it would exclude the possibility of marriage between the friends. I know that I always imagined there being rules about the relationship between marriage and bound friendship; at the least, a marriage did not dissolve a bound friendship, but if you were married, you needed your spouse's permission in order to enter into a new bound friendship. (I may have had more worked out than that, but that's what I remember right now, and I don't seem to have written anything down about it, so if I want to develop it further I'll have to work it out again.)
I wonder when I developed that idea. Probably late Sunshine Coast days, possibly UBC days, but it feels probably pre-UBC.